Wednesday, November 19, 2014

Being punished for being bullied

It's been awhile since I've written in my blog. We've had a million adventures, including finding a dinosaur! I've found that I just don't write as well when I'm having a good time. Recently, Rigel has been experiencing some bully issues in school. There is a group of boys that likes to play soccer in his school that have decided they are better than everyone else. Rigel is an independent kind of guy. He isn't afraid to say what is on his mind. This group of boys decided a certain table belonged to them at lunch time. Rigel's friend (with Aspberger's Syndrome) didn't understand about the territorial issues that can arise from sitting on this table, so he sat. Rigel sat next to him. This is what started the bullying.
     Rigel is a fierce protector of the people he loves. He and his friend were told to move, in a not so polite way. Rigel told them they had a right to sit where they wanted. He was then pushed, threatened with his life, and physically forced to get off the table. They picked up his lunch, told him they would kill him if he didn't get out of here. The same was done to his friend. Rigel came to me (I was working in the lunch room at the time) I went over to diffuse the situation. After I had everyone sitting and eating their lunch I went to my supervisor, Mr. S. I was told by him to let him deal with it in the future so that I could remain unbiased. I agreed. I wish I hadn't.
     Over the next several weeks Rigel was tormented. They started by name calling, moved on to cursing and spitting, then started in on Ara. These boys were the most rude disrespectful kids in the school. Every single time they did something I informed Mr. S. Every time I was told something was being done about it. I trusted the school, I had no reason not too.
     When they started getting physical is when I started getting concerned. One boy pushed Rigel down, so Rigel got up and hit him. Guess who was punished? It wasn't the boy that pushed, that's right, it was Rigel! There were many instances similar to this, except Rigel would just walk away. I reported every one. Why wasn't anyone stopping these boys? At parent/teacher conference I learned what some of the problem was. I was told by the teacher that she didn't believe any bullying was going on. She said that boys will be boys and they needed to learn to figure it out on there own. She told me that Rigel was just as much an instigator as the other boys. Okay, Rigel isn't an angel, he's got a big mouth, maybe she was right? WRONG!!!! I should have gone with what I know was right.
     Yesterday, according to these five boys that have been tormenting Rigel and Ara, Rigel threatened to bring a gun to school and "shoot every one of them one by one". Rigel told me he didn't say it, I believe him. The police were called, interviews happened and charges were pressed. Rigel was suspended for three days. I told the police about all the bullying instances. Not a single one had been recorded by administration. Three of these 5 kids were teachers own children.
     Rigel is being punished for being bullied. He had a trumpet blown in his ear. He's been spat upon numerous times. He's had balls thrown at him. He's been pushed, he's been kicked in the behind, he's been reported for doing things that he didn't do just to get him in trouble. The only person that stood up for him was his sister. My hands were tied. He's been suspended. Spread his message, stop the bullying, stand up for some one! Call Canyon Grove Academy in Pleasant grove, Utah. Tell them to stop the bullying, don't let this happen to another child. You can email them too at office@canyongrove.com.